Girls make excuses. Women find solutions.
There is always an excuse to why something was not accomplished. But it's just that. An excuse. Instead of giving an excuse, find a solution. I learned this indirectly by working with sex offenders.
Believe it or not, offenders don't actually enjoy sitting in jail. So to avoid sitting in jail, they typically cut a deal with the state. Well, the state says in order for you to not be in jail, here are all the rules you have to live by. And believe me. Here in the state of Texas, they are serious about following the rules. And when my offenders would step out of line, and give me some lame excuse, that was shut down immediately. I would tell them that as long as they were on probation or parole and they wanted to stay out of the orange jumpsuit, then they have to live as if they have a solution for every problem. If their car breaks down on the way to group, they should have at least 10 backup plans to make it on time. If they lose their job between sessions, they should be pounding the pavement to find another one and have my money ready by the time of the next group. Now, for those who decide that they would rather live by excuses, rather than find solutions, they didn't last very long on probation/parole. I have seen many an offender get sent back.
Now how does this apply to you? For most problems that you run into on your path, there is a solution. It may take awhile to figure out. It may take years. But there is a solution. So you have 2 options. You can make an excuse and concede defeat. Or you can find a solution and fight towards victory. The choice is yours.
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